When death creates the action that life failed to do!
The death of a loved one hits us all hard. I’ve experienced this and I know how much pain it can cause. Why is it then that sometimes in certain circumstances the death of a loved one, spurs some people into action in a way they never did when the person was alive?
If you never in life visited them, helped them, offered them no comfort at their lowest times (no matter how hard it got), even deterring others from offering them help and made awful comments about them, why would you then after death suddenly rally around and be seen to want to help or even then ask others to do it for you? It makes no sense!
Surely its been better to help our loved ones in life, when they need us the most. This of course isn’t always easy. Loved ones struggling will take out their anxieties, frustrations and anger on those they love the most and that has to be the hardest thing for relatives and loved ones to endure. I’ve been there and worn the t-shirt, as have other family members. However, its at the hardest and most difficult times our loved ones need us the most. Our loved ones are ours and we should help and not be absent!
Perhaps death somehow makes people see, understand and is a reminder of what they should have done in life? Its a question that only those involved can answer and if they feel the need to make amends then that’s down to them but should they be asking others to pay for things that perhaps they themselves should and could have done?
For me its about being their for those we love while we still have them because we should love no matter what and unconditionally. Of course loving someone doesn’t mean liking their life choices, their actions or what they say because we don’t but love, real love goes beyond that.
Billy Ocean made a song called ‘When the going gets tough’ and the line says ‘the tough get going’. Well I guess in some cases that’s true and in those cases its sad. So today and everyday, show you care for friends, neighbours but especially for those we are related to, those we should love, no matter what because one day they may not be here and then it’ll be too late for them and too late to put right your actions. Once they’re gone you can’t put things right and asking others to pay for the things you should have done right will not ease your own conscience.
Its strange that in some situations death creates the action that life failed to do!
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