“I’ll be happy when… “

 

 

How often do we hear people say this? How often do we say it ourselves?

“I’ll be happy when I have a new car.”

“I’ll be happy when I get married.”

“I’ll be happy when I get a better job.”

“I’ll be happy when I move house.”

“I’ll be happy when I win the lottery!”

What we forget is that happiness is a choice, not an easy one, especially when we have outside pressures, trauma, worries or concerns to deal with. At times being happy seems to be the biggest challenge in life.

You’ve made the decision you want to be happy but how can you achieve it?

Set aside pettiness and non-important issues you may have with others. What if they can’t do the same? It’s their issue don’t retaliate just remember you’re a better person, move on and do your best to ignore their words and deeds. Others will always knock you and it’s hard when they do but life is for living.

Stop believing all the rubbish we tell ourselves about how we are a coward, lazy, not creative or unlucky. The truth is we all have talents, something to give, it’s about believing in what you can do or offer and that starts with believing in you.

Put your problems into context, there are far worse things in the world happening. Try your best to focus on where you want to be in life and keep going what you can to get there.

Tell the people you trust when you need help, or when you feel you’re depressed or you’re happy, share these times.  Don’t do what we all do at one time and another and play it cool and pretend we only care as much as the other person has admitted to caring, when we only open up half way. We need people to acknowledge us so we need to make sure that we acknowledge those that we care about those who are there for us.

Practice gratitude and do it often. Gratitude is what makes what we have enough. Gratitude is the most basic way to connect with that sense of being an integral part of the vastness of the universe.

Keep things simple, we’ll always face challenges and obstacles what we don’t need to do is create extra ones. Have you noticed what often seemed a small issue at the time, seems not to be when we look back? Being ‘in the moment’ magnifies things.

Admit your mistakes and errors and learn to apologize and be sincere about it. People think so much more of those who know they’ve done something wrong and are doing what they can to put it right.

The most important thing to being happy is to be kind. It costs nothing and pays dividends. It won’t help you save the whole world but it will make the lives of others better.  Be honest about being kind, those who are truly kind do it quietly, they do it for others and not themselves. If others acknowledge their kindness publically then show kindness by saying thanks. Lots of people get acknowledged for what they do and there will always be those, who want to use this negatively!

The biggest thing we can do in life is to extend love and kindness to others. Once we achieve this we know we have made a difference and are on the way  to changing the world and being happy.